Relationships Navigating the Storms

3 Ways My Mental Illness Has Affected My Marriage

Learn about marriage and invisible disabilities, in this case the invisibility of mental illness. Read Meghan’s story below. Meghan Villatoro writes our guest post today from her experiences. Check out her website Restore Amor where she seeks to help others build strong marriages. © Meghan Villatoro, post & images Having a chronic illness isn’t easy. […]

What People Are Seen in the Invisible Disabilities Community?

I see three groups of people in the world of invisible disabilities. First, I notice those living with chronic illnesses; my viewpoint is that of the hurting. Next, I recognize caregivers who also face great challenges; they have a distinct perspective. Third, I identify those who care but aren’t caregivers and who have an even […]

Important Parenthood Preparation Tips for First-Time Moms

Invisibly disabled women come in all ages; some are young and want to start a family. Check out Ashley’s post and her website for more information for new parents with disabilities. Maybe Observers can pick up tips for helping friends. Parenting with invisible disabilities is feasible and exciting. As a mom-to-be, you’re likely feeling the […]

“Beneath the Surface” by Kristi Hugstad – An Excerpt

But suicide is too common among the invisibly disabled community, also. These ideas are also beneficial for adults. If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide, get helpful info. Read this book. If the person is already serious, TELL SOMEONE who can help. Or call this help line: 1-800-273-8255.

What Do You Say? What Do They Hear?

Ever wondered what to say to your chronically ill friend? Ever wondered why they seemed upset at something you meant kindly? Satisfying conversation with invisibly disabled people is possible. But misunderstandings can occur. Consider what your words mean to them. As sixteen-year-old Paul pushed his mother, Celeste, into the Worship Center, a few people said, […]

My Tribute to Karen Baker: My Friend, My Supportive Observer

We met Karen 19 years ago when Joe and I moved to Gold Beach, OR for Joe to become the new pastor at her church. Thus, began a friendship that lasted all these years. It ended March 31, 2019 when Karen joined Jesus. Although we moved on after two years, we retained our friendship. We […]

Is My Life Hard to Understand? Find Help Here!

Where do I start? My first thought when someone asks what’s wrong with me! Maybe other dwellers think that, too. Especially if they have multiple issues or a difficult-to-describe rare condition. It's not that I don't want to explain; I just don't know what to say. The desire to be understood is a deep need […]

What Happens If You Come Over Unannounced – SpoonieEdition

© Bianca Miranda One Tough Spoonie A humorous look at what can happen if you just “drop-in” to see your chronically ill friend. --Connected Carole Which visit do you choose? Distressing or Enjoyable My phone rings and it’s a family member on the line saying, “Hey, I am right by your house, I […]

Pull Back the Storm: Comfort Your Friend

When your friend lives in storms, his life is difficult even when he’s successfully navigating them. But, sometimes storms hit harder, and things get tougher. And you can help pull back the storm—with comfort. However, there are wrong and right—and even better—ways to comfort. I remember two days early in my storms when I visited […]

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