Invisibly disabled women come in all ages; some are young and want to start a family. Check out Ashley’s post and her website for more information for new parents with disabilities. Maybe Observers can pick up tips for helping friends. Parenting with invisible disabilities is feasible and exciting.
Ashley Taylor is a freelance writer, photographer, and advocate for people with disabilities. She created DisabledParents.org to provide information and resources to other parents with disabilities. When she isn’t working, she enjoys spending time with her husband and two children.
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As a mom-to-be, you’re likely feeling the pressure to get your life in order before your new baby arrives. From baby-proofing the home to preparing yourself emotionally, there’s so much to do and so little time. The stress can seem unrelenting at times—and for good reason! Having a baby is one of the biggest life changes you will ever experience. Take your preparations one step at a time and remember that it’s normal to feel completely overwhelmed as an expecting mother. Here are some essential ways to get your life ready.
Safeguard Your Financial Future
It’s no secret that having a child can be costly. While you may not be able to avoid most baby-related expenses, you can protect the long-term financial health of your family with good insurance policies. Mom and Dad Money recommends that all new parents have life insurance, disability insurance, and health insurance. This is especially important if you’re a single mom-to-be!
While you’re at it, review your car insurance policy to ensure you’re covered in the event of an accident. Your savings can really take a hit if you’re forced to pay for a large car repair or replace your car completely. In many states, the minimum insurance requirements aren’t enough to cover all accident-related costs, which can leave you on the hook for damages and medical bills. Unfortunately, single parents don’t get a break when it comes to insurance premiums. Look for insurance companies that offer discounts for safe drivers or low-mileage driving. You may also be able to get a discounted rate for bundling your insurance policies together.
Invest in Helpful Supplies
In addition to various baby essentials, consider purchasing a few special items designed to make your life easier and more comfortable after the baby arrives. These can be particularly useful if you have a
disability—visible or not. For example, a hands free pumping bra sold by mother-oriented stores like Kindred Bravely can be a huge help to busy moms. You’ll be able to wear the same comfortable bra all day, omitting awkward wardrobe changes when it’s time to pump. A good breastfeeding pillow is invaluable for preventing back pain and making nursing more accessible to people with disabilities. Additionally, Extremely Good Parenting recommends creating a postpartum care kit to reduce discomfort and help your body heal after birth.
Take Care of Yourself
Many new moms get so caught up in the whirlwind of preparations that they forget to take care of themselves. Your body is working extremely hard right now, so it’s more important than ever to practice self-care. Spend some time doing things that make you feel good. Go for a walk, try meditating, do yoga, take a nap, or go to bed early. Carving out the time to embrace periods of calm can be very rejuvenating. Most importantly, don’t feel guilty or selfish about making time for you. Nurturing yourself through pregnancy will help you prepare for what lies ahead! Let go of any expectations you have about pregnancy, childbirth, or parenting, and learn how to be flexible and forgiving with yourself.
Develop a Support Network
Whether you’re a single mom-to-be or you have a reliable partner at your side, it’s important to develop a support network of people you can turn to when you need help. Not only will this make it easier to adjust to your major life changes, but Medical News Today asserts that social support is crucial for fending off postpartum depression. Family, friends, neighbors, and even strangers can provide invaluable assistance as you face the challenges of raising a newborn. Find people who can provide practical support, like help with meal prep or cleaning. This is particularly important if you have disability-related limitations. Just remember to look for people who can be there for you emotionally as well.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed and underprepared for parenthood, you’re not alone. No one is ever truly prepared for their firstborn! Becoming a new mom is a huge transition and a major life change. While there’s bound to be quite a few challenges to face along the way, it’s nothing you can’t handle.
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